Since society has changed the rules of dating, the game is full of different levels and different rounds. So how do you know you know who is up in score? How do you know if that phone call put him/her in the lead , or if that lingering stare effed your score card up?
Especially because the world has turned dating upside down in the last 20 years, woman like to associate themselves with men tendencies. I have countless friends who act based off of their ego before they even acknowledge their emotions. You don't believe me? Most people don't, which is why they are always underestimated.
So what about the rules in a relationship of casual sex? In a fuck buddy relationship? Are there even rules?
How do you decipher how you are supposed to act and what rules you are to follow when there isn't just DATING vs not dating relationships anymore? There is so much to consider depending on where you let your cards lay. It turns into who is going to be the winner at the end. That is what matters most if there is not going to be titles involved. Since you have began a relationship off with faulty promises and unreal guidelines, there is going to be a dead end in that tunnel. The only thing that will matter for your ego's sake, is who who reaches the wall first and who comes in last.
My friend started a casual sex relationship recently. Honestly, perfect for her. No one to answer to, yet someone to put her to sleep and relieve some stress whenever she needed it. Their relationship was on the same level, he wanted just as much as she did so there was no need for change. Dream come true for a lot of people these days. No drama, no fights, no obligations. Just small talks, sex, and occasionally drunken phone calls.
It wasn't until an unannounced drop in to his house revealed other women variables and changed up the game. As women, we mentally claim territory and so of course another snatch in my territory would make me question my decisions as well. Just because the relationship had no ties, doesn't mean anyone wants to be reminded that you may be sharing with strangers. She decided that she wanted to discuss altering the agreement to a monogamous status. I know her well enough to know that this was definitely more for egotistical reasons.
This bitch doesn't have feelings.
How do you even start that conversation when you are the one who made the rules, the one who actually favors the no strings attached rule? I had tried to help her come up with a million different sly ways to discuss it, but her way, the move she made, took balls. Big man balls.
A midst a midnight rendezvous, laying there butt ass naked and in his bed, she gathered up enough courage to just simply ask him to go through the rules with her in order to make adjustments and get clarification. When a monogamous relationship was put on the table, he clarified that that was not an option for him because it was not something he wanted.
Like a champ, she agreed.... As she laid there ... naked....in his bed.... She then proceeded with their night activities, got dressed with him, and let him take her home.
There was no scene, no cruel thoughts, no mixed emotions, and no regret of bringing up what she needed to say.
All that was there was clarity.
She just touched the wall at the dead end before him.
Especially because the world has turned dating upside down in the last 20 years, woman like to associate themselves with men tendencies. I have countless friends who act based off of their ego before they even acknowledge their emotions. You don't believe me? Most people don't, which is why they are always underestimated.
So what about the rules in a relationship of casual sex? In a fuck buddy relationship? Are there even rules?
How do you decipher how you are supposed to act and what rules you are to follow when there isn't just DATING vs not dating relationships anymore? There is so much to consider depending on where you let your cards lay. It turns into who is going to be the winner at the end. That is what matters most if there is not going to be titles involved. Since you have began a relationship off with faulty promises and unreal guidelines, there is going to be a dead end in that tunnel. The only thing that will matter for your ego's sake, is who who reaches the wall first and who comes in last.
My friend started a casual sex relationship recently. Honestly, perfect for her. No one to answer to, yet someone to put her to sleep and relieve some stress whenever she needed it. Their relationship was on the same level, he wanted just as much as she did so there was no need for change. Dream come true for a lot of people these days. No drama, no fights, no obligations. Just small talks, sex, and occasionally drunken phone calls.
It wasn't until an unannounced drop in to his house revealed other women variables and changed up the game. As women, we mentally claim territory and so of course another snatch in my territory would make me question my decisions as well. Just because the relationship had no ties, doesn't mean anyone wants to be reminded that you may be sharing with strangers. She decided that she wanted to discuss altering the agreement to a monogamous status. I know her well enough to know that this was definitely more for egotistical reasons.
This bitch doesn't have feelings.
How do you even start that conversation when you are the one who made the rules, the one who actually favors the no strings attached rule? I had tried to help her come up with a million different sly ways to discuss it, but her way, the move she made, took balls. Big man balls.
A midst a midnight rendezvous, laying there butt ass naked and in his bed, she gathered up enough courage to just simply ask him to go through the rules with her in order to make adjustments and get clarification. When a monogamous relationship was put on the table, he clarified that that was not an option for him because it was not something he wanted.
Like a champ, she agreed.... As she laid there ... naked....in his bed.... She then proceeded with their night activities, got dressed with him, and let him take her home.
There was no scene, no cruel thoughts, no mixed emotions, and no regret of bringing up what she needed to say.
All that was there was clarity.
She just touched the wall at the dead end before him.
