men VS boys

Ladies, don't play yourself.  You know the difference.  It's just sometimes you fail to acknowledge them.  AND why do you fail to?  Probably because sub-consciously, you know that once you decipher the difference, you will find out you are dating a boy instead of a man.  OUCH.  Hurts a little bit huh?  Well face it bitch, reality isn't always the more fun stroll.  Sometimes that fantasy land you live in is HELLA comfortable.

Dating a boy is not as bad as it seems.  BUT, that is only if you know that the "boy" you are dating will become a man soon enough.  Unless you want a boy your whole life.... ew.  And to be honest, if you are dating a boy, and you are unhappy about it, take a second to re-evaluate your life decisions.  You have no one to blame but yourself.  You choose to date him and keep him.

Being that I am around so many guys all the time, I have come to realize that most guys are in fact "men" when they are in men circles, but when it comes back time to being the "boy"friend, they take that role  literally.  You can tell the transition if you are friends with the guy as opposed to being the girl he is dating.  If you are in his friend circle, he will be what a man should be: honest, blunt, cares just enough, and responsible.  He will admit how pretty a girl is, or how busted she is.  If you are his girl friend, he is the exact opposite: dishonest, secretive, barely cares, and depends on you for most things.

The difference between a man and a boy is pretty much very clear.  A man can take care of you.  A boy can't even take care of himself.  A man will always take responsibility and blames only himself for his mistakes.  A boy blames anyone and everyone but himself.  A man always pays.  A boy forgets his wallet.  A man will open your car door.  A boy will ask you yo drive.  A man will strap it up no matter how much he doesn't like it until he wants a kid.  A boy will tell you he'll pull out and tell you to buy the day after pill.  A man will do anything to keep you from crying.  A boy will count how many times he can have you cryin him a river in a week.

So what can turn a boy into a man?  Definitely not any nagging from his girl.  Patience is a virtue girls.  You hold on for as long as he is worth it, and if it is meant to be, he will be man enough for you in time.  Guys are very simple.  Simple characteristics can make a boy happy and can make him see that he needs to be a "man" to keep such a perfect girl.  Any signs of unwanted characteristics makes a boy think he has no reason to man up.  What for?  A whole bunch of things he doesn't want?

Every girl in the WORLD is looking for a man.  Every girl swears that there isn't a man out there man enough.  Every girl should just sit down somewhere and decide what their next step is going to be.  Either be the woman to change that boy into a man, or move the hell on to the man that deserves you. 

Boys will always be boys until they have to man up.

Girls seem to forget these days that it takes a real woman to bring out the MAN in her boyfriend.

the man friends.... being men....

home number 2.....

Oh Seattle how I love you....

I took another mini vacation from life, and went to the only place that is close enough to home to keep me from being homesick, yet far enough where I can do whatever the eff I want to do.  Seattle.  I realized that it is the only place I can truly go wild.... besides Vegas.  This is because it is actually completely acceptable.

All my friends out there usually go way too hard.  And honestly, I envy their passion for going hard (go ahead, laugh).  I think that everyone that is young and has enough free time should have the same mentality.  I think people now a days are too serious with life.

The fam bam is always together, celebrating a birthday or holiday.  My cousins are always so happy and willing to do crazy things.  Never stressed with life troubles.  They sort of live a "fuck it" kind of life.  I think that sometimes that kind of life can be way healthier than stressing out all the time.

I AM DEFINITELY NOT saying that it is cool to give up on life or anything.  I am just saying that sometimes people fail to enjoy God's gift of life.  If there isn't a time in your life that you get to be greedy and just do things to do them, then you are wasting your life.  ESPECIALLY if you are young, and you have no kids, and you are not married.

Whenever I go to Seattle, I realize that those are the people that know what I am talking about.  They go out and party on wednesday just because they can.  They get drunk and do things for shits and giggles because they know that everything is always more fun inebriated. Yet, they still know that they gotta work in the morning.  They still know that making money is the most important thing.  All in all, they have a better priority list than most people i know.

When you live life for you, it changes your outlook in life.

Take a random vacation to Seattle and tell me it doesn't change you :) 

sober.....

drunk.....

seesound.....

thong, tha-thong, thong, thong....

Okay, sometimes, things like thongs are completely unnecessary.  If you aren't trying to hide underwear lines or seduce a boy with the image, then they are unnecessary.  Not to mention that they should not even be considered under garments because they cover NOTHING.  Don't misinterpret.  I like em, the cute ones, the ass floss, the fact that some can let a guy imagine you have nothing on.  But if I am not trying to hide lines or have him put it down, then I think twice before I put them on in the morning.  Since they are so small, why only give my vagina partial freedom?  Why not just go commando instead?  Not to mention there won't be anything shoved in my ass crack all day.  Thongs are for special usage, and to make things simple.  If they are used all the time they only become a hassle.


I don't understand why people cannot comprehend that concept.  Anything unnecessary in your life shouldn't  be messed with unless you need too.  I would say to cut it out all together but sometimes you need that thong to make that vegas dress look just right.


I guess what I really don't comprehend is people's logic in life.  I understand that everyone just has their own train of thought for things, and of course, a person's perspective on things differs from person to person, yet, I would figure that the logic of things in general should be somewhat the same for everyone.

I figured wrong.

Logistically, you would think people would live life in a way that would make things easier for them.  Basically meaning, that people would do things to make life sail by easier, less hassle, less drama, etcetera.  Unfortunately, it seems as though people all around me choose  to keep wearing thongs even when the part up your ass crack is starting to chafe. I guess to them, the image of things is easier to deal with then the reality.


If you don't need it in your life, cut emotions out.


I know thongs are pretty, but my ass is too pretty to chafe.

remember how men = shoes?

Last week, the bestie called on the verge of tears saying how she "broke her favorite pair of heels".  Little did I know, this bitch was not talking about shoes.

Remember how I had said that girls should find something that a man is in her eyes, shoes for example?  Well my friends and I have seriously taken that into consideration, and shoes ARE a perfect match.  I mean, being as dirty as they are, they usually just relate it to sexual endeavors with men, rather than the man himself.  But honestly, same difference.


Therefore, her frantic phone call referred to a sexual endeavor gone bad.  She called me ballistic, saying that her "go-to" guy for tooting and booting had just given her a HORRIBLE experience.  Talk about bad news right?  I was trying to sound convincing when I told her it was okay.  I was trying to make her see that she could always find another.  Then she referenced it to shoes.  "Rose, I bought these Christian Louboutin's with my own money, I put in work for these shoes because they were my PERFECT fit, and NOW, the heel broke off.  I want to cry."  My response?  "Damn.  Guess your gonna have to save up and start shopping all over again."


That conversation was pretty much the deal breaker for me.  Now, officially, men=shoes.  Now which shoe are they?  You tell me.


Is he your NIKE Women's Free 5.0 V4?  Comfortable and helpful to your feet but yet only wearable to work on your "fitness".  Not much use anywhere else and you never wear him in public unless you are wearing sweat pants and a hoodie too go with it...

Maybe he is your Chesnut colored Uggs.  He matches with everything and is something you can just throw on.  He is always comfortable and never makes you look back and go "WTF was I thinking?"  Not only that, but Uggs aren't cheap so you know he is worth it.  Yet, you notice everyone has a pair just like yours.....

The truth is, every woman is looking for that PERFECT pair of heels.  The ones you can throw on with anything you are wearing.  The ones that never hurt your feet.  The ones that make you look SO good, you never have to second guess slipping those babies on.  And even with the occasional blister, you ALWAYS slip him back on because you like the excitement of knowing that it is ALWAYS gonna be such a perfect fit..... Yea, I need a pair of those.

Now am I referring to the man or the sex?  Like I said before, same difference.  I guess it just depends on your priorities.  If you need a man to take care of you, then you are talking about the man in general.  If you are a grown ass woman, you take care of yourself, and are looking for a man to satisfy other needs, you are referring to how well he PUTS IT DOWN when it comes to shoe fitting.  Just sayin.

Eva didn't get the memo?

Okay I am NOT trying to be an asshole or anything, but I really don't get why Eva Longoria is surprised that her ATHLETE husband was beginning to creep.  Did she not get the memo?  Did she think that just because she has a ton of money and she is a successful, beautiful, actress, that a hoe wouldn't creep in?  She thought that would keep her man's junk in his pants?

I just don't understand why she is so surprised.  Honestly, you married an NBA player.  I don't think cheating is right by any means.  BUT, I am smart enough to know that if I ever married an athlete, a rapper, or an actor, he WILL MOST LIKELY cheat on me.  NO MATTER who I am, what I'm worth, or how fine the plastic surgery will make me.  WIll I accept it?  Well if I KNEW it going into the relationship, then I am inclined to.  As a grown ass woman, you should know that if you marry an athlete, you might have to live with the fact that he will cheat.  Is it worth it?  Money, cars, clothes, vacations.... I don't know, but it sounds like athlete wives now have no trouble.  Men are more inclined to cheat because they think with their second head for the majority of the day.  And an athlete is never home.... that means a lack of sex with his wife... So what do you think he will do in that case?  And there are a lot of really pretty, yet DUMB, girls who will sleep with athletes thinking it might get them somewhere.  

I will not falsely accuse all the men in this category to be cheaters, but I will say that the amount that doesn't cheat are slim.  The same goes for college athletes.  Athletes in general really ( I'll show a video later to show you what I mean). All I am making a fuss about is the fact that Eva should have known.

Not only that, but Eva is mad that he was "sexting."  He hadn't even cheated yet!!  Come on woman.  You are being completely ungrateful considering the situation.  Do you know what Tiger Woods' wife, Elin just went through?  And you have the audacity to make such a big deal over a sext?  If you were smart Eva you would have known already that this could happen, and then you could have easily made a huge fuss about the "sexting" and then started keeping your close wrap on your husband.  Maybe then you would have been able to keep him from cheating a little bit more.  But the whole situation is a joke.  The divorce and the big publicity is all a laugh-fest for me.  Especially since Tony Parker is such a moron too!

Really Tony?  You couldn't find any other hoochies to sext with?  It HAD to be your team mates' wife?  Out of all the women that would have sex with you, you picked someone so close to home?!?  If Eva wants to be mad at anything, she should be mad that her husband is SUCH a douche that he thought he was slick enough to pull it off.

People are lacking in common sense these days.  It's so disappointing at times.  At least she's pretty right?

Miss Right, bi*ch....

There is this movie called "Singles" that I was watching with my dad the other night.  It's way old school and it's based in Seattle in the early 90's.  The plot is self explanatory, matching its title.  Just a story about single people exploring which side is greener if you know what I mean.  In the movie, a girl is determined to get breast implants so the guy she likes would be happier with her body.  Her surgeon gives her one last statement for her to ponder before the big change.  He says, "If your boyfriend doesn't appreciate you the way you are, then ask: 
Are you his Miss Right, or are you his Miss Maybe?"


First of all, I thought it was a great line.  It is very proper to bring up that question when you are getting involved with someone.  You never want to be categorized as someone's "Maybe" when you are most likely titling them as the "Right".  


So how do you know if you are a "Maybe"?  Are you always trying to fix yourself?  Do you only care about what makes him happy?  Are you always waiting on him to call, or you are always calling him?  Are you always crying or sad?  Bitch, you are the "Maybe" then, WAKE UP! And, um hello, guys can be the  "Maybe" too.  A bestie of mine has like four "Maybe"s, ALL of whom claim she is Miss "Right".  One that wants to marry her, but he might be playing on both teams if you know what I mean.... the second begs for dates daily, but lives 2 states away ...... the third had his chance for YEARS, and smoked his way into failure...... and the fourth begs for her daily, but has a girlfriend on the side.  They all fail to realize that while they see her as Miss "Right", they have done NOTHING to make sure that they are Mr. "Right".  Hence, like the thoughtful person she is, she dates none of them.


Now of course, since there are people who think only about their needs, you will find those times when dating the "Maybe" is what they do because it is beneficial to them in almost every way.  An abundance of people in the world date their "Maybe"s because it is SO MUCH EASIER to settle down with the "Maybe" instead of searching for the "Right".  That way you get ALMOST everything you are looking for and don't have to put in work to find out what's missing.  Not only that, but you are the "Right"! That means, you KNOW that the other person is working hard to keep you.  How simple right?  Guys are always more inclined to settle for their "Maybe".  Why?  Beats me.  I guess they settle because it will be guaranteed sex rather than sex they have to work for.  Sad story, yet I can't feel bad for you if you refuse to acknowledge your worth rather than theirs.  That's your own fault.


 I know more woman that are "Maybe"s in my life, than I know men that are "Maybe"s.  That is honestly so absolutely absurd considering we have the vagina!  When did girls stop listening?  Every man out there knows pussy is power,  they mention it, they rap about it, they get drunk and confess it.  Why are we so reluctant to use it?


I guess you will never know if you are a Miss "Right " until you find your Mr. "Right", or vice versa.  Just remember not to lose focus of your worth and WAKE UP if you are the "Maybe".... because you will be shit out of luck if their "Right" comes along and scoops yours up.  Girls, better use that pussy power....

platonic relationships ?

Are they really feasible?  I would have to STRONGLY agree. 

 I know that everyone says they are impossible, but I beg to differ.  I guess my life cannot suffice for the rest of the world, but I will say that my girlfriends and I have a TON of guy friends that are strictly in the "friend-zone" and they KNOW it.  I am sure that if sex or anything of the sort came up, there would be a slight sense of uncomfortable feelings.  That is my point, it would be uncomfortable because the guy is strictly in friend-zone.  Any guy I put there, has no chance of crossing that line.  That's why it's very important fellas, that if you want that girl to be yours, STAY AWAY from the friend-zone.


The other day, while making that annoying drive to work, I heard Ryan Seacrest on the radio discussing how he had heard there were co-ed dorms that allowed co-ed roomates.  He said that a platonic relationship was impossible because whether they ever admit it or not, there will be a drunken night that will lead to other extra activities.  That I understand.  It's college.  I remember the things I saw in college (I was more of an observer rather than a participator).  Yet, I had MANY drunken nights with guy friends, and they were no where near the cookie jar.  And besides that, I think that if a girl puts a guy in the "friend-zone", getting out of it is beyond difficult, nearly impossible, and basically "ni**a please".


Why do you think ex-boyfriends get put in the friend-zone once they are out of the picture?  No matter how hot they are, how long you were with them, or how much you would love to jump back in, a SMART girl puts her ex in the friend-zone so he knows what he lost.  It's all about who has the upper hand in the end, and who regrets losing the relationship in the first place, thus, you always put the old boyfriends in a category they will now have to regret for as long as you stay friends.


I think having guy friends keep me sane.  Honestly, the only difference between me and the boys I hang out with, is their junk versus mine.  I have lost all emotion inside, and boys never have them in the first place.  Girls are so emotional..... so much crying..... bitchiness..... Not my fancy.  I'm the only bitch I want to know.  So it is easier to be friends with boys for me.  Not to mention that I am very close to my dad, and he has taught me a lot about the way a boy thinks.  I do envy that train of thought at times.  Life would be so much easier if it simply revolved around sex and money. 


So, all in all, in my personal point of view, platonic girl guy relationships are possible.  In my eyes, I do not think of my guy friends in any other way but my guy friends.  Do they have absurd or slightly sexual fantasies about me?  God, I hope not, because some of the things I do around my guy friends are not sexy AT ALL, and I would feel EXTREMELY horrible if they did not realize that they would never get out of my friend-zone.....


Then again, I have no heart so.... 

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"girls talk about the booty too" .....

Remember this song? 

I was just thinking about how side tracked many of my conversations become because of how perverted I think.  I guess I would think it to be rather unusual, being perverted, yet most of the people I surround myself with are on the same level.  And surprisingly, most of my ladies have their mind in the gutter more than my guy friends.  I think that because there is a certain image of being "lady like", thinking about sex or making sexual remarks  are socially unacceptable coming from a woman.

This is why I chose this song to explain what I mean.  Girls talk is JUST like guy talk believe it or not.  As a matter of fact, I think we are a tad bit worse.  I have heard guy talk on many occasions.....who smashed whom, how it was, if she went down, how her coo-ka smelled, and a lot more into details that I'd rather not get into.  And the funny thing about hearing those conversations, is that I can always relate them to the conversations I have with the girls.  Just the other day one of the girls was discussing who had the biggest junk and who used it better, who she would and wouldn't go down on and why, and about the many thoughts that run through her head when the sex just isn't good enough.


I'm sure that girls are just more private about the perverted things going on in their head so that other's won't classify them wrongly based on their inner thoughts.  Just because I think dirty doesn't mean I am.  But I warn you, re-evaluate statements you make to me or any of my friends..... because what you say always translates differently when I hear it.  Not by choice, just simply by habit.

i'm a BUGATTI b*tch.... a coupe....

It was another night of drinks with the parentals and some friends, when the topic of being a hoe came along.  Now as we all know, it is completely acceptable for a man to hoe himself around because.... well honestly, I don't know exactly, why.  I suppose it's simply because they are built that way.  Anywho, yes, males are accepted for sluttin' themselves out, but obviously if girls do it, definitely not okay.  A man can sleep with half a town and not be considered anything more than a man, whearas a girl can sleep with one too many guys, and she'll now be skankified. 

Forever that has been a topic of stuggle, a topic of gender biast views, and a topic with no real reason to distinguish why the situation is so different depending on if u have a cooch or man-junk.  I personally think that men are just afraid of the fact that women are JUST AS SCANDALOUS as they are.  So, to prevent from hurting their pride, they give women a bad name for doing the EXACT same thing they are doing. 

Well that night, having this discussion with my father, kinda made things slightly clear.  His answer to the question as to why girls can't hoe around was: "Women need to understand that in a man's eyes, you are like a car.  The less mileage the more desirable the car is.  Like for example, when you go to buy a new car, you always look for the newest nicest car OR the used car that used to be owned by an old lady who never went anywhere."  Wow. So I am a car?

What does that make a man to a woman's eyes? Christian Louboutins ? Because, in that case, we don't like when the red is worn off either.  We just usually accept it because it's to expensive to go buy a new pair and we know that you can barely see the bottom anyway. Perhaps, women are just more confident with their pride.

Unfortunately, the fact of the matter is, society has made it so that girls will never escape from being seen as a "car" in the eyes of a man.

Eff it. I'm a Bugatti...a coupe, and I'm looking for some fly Louboutins to match this ride.

I got a small circle ......

"That's why I pick and choose, I don't get sh*t confused, I got a small circle, I'm not with different crews." -Drake

This is exactly how I feel about having some of the GREATEST girlfriends ever.  I honestly detest being friends with girls.  I do.  Way too much drama for my life.  I think that girls are too whiney, bitchy, and very brutally vicious.  Girls talk to much crap, and never to your face, always behind your back.  It's annoyingly difficult to be friends with girls.  That is why, I rarely choose them.

  Luckily for me, I have had almost all the same girlfriends since high school.  That in itself is a long and hard challenge.  A large amount of the girls I surrounded myself with back then, aren't even people I would pick up the phone and call anymore.  I guess with age you stop feeling bad for ditching people and start realizing that if they were real friends, you wouldn't have to ditch them in the first place.  I mean, I still have the girls that are always gonna be my girls, even though we barely talk, but as for the girls I choose to let participate in my life daily, oh they come very sparingly.  I can count them on one hand.  

When I was younger, my parents would always warn me that friends would come and go.  I think I just tried so hard to ignore them because I never wanted to believe it.  Who wants to be 10 and come to realizations that friends aren't forever?  That is not healthy.  I think it was in high school when I finally understood what my parentals were getting at.  I had an overly large group of friends in general.  Guys were no big deal because I always got along with boys.  There was a group of 10 girls that we had put together.  Out of those 10 girls, I am friends with about half and talk with them every once in a while, and 4 are in my life daily.  I found that a these girls turned out to be the sisters mom and dad never gave me.  I look back, and realize that these are the same girls that I stood with in pre graduation photos.  


It's nice to know we got through high school together.... And even nicer to know that college is over for most of us and we are still tighter than a virgin.  When my dad would discuss being friends with people, he would ALWAYS say "Being friends with someone should require no work at all.  It should just come easily and there should be no drama or excess work if they are truly friends."  


Of course, he was right.  The beautiful ladies I surround myself with don't make it difficult.  AND, they know that if it was too difficult to be friends, we just wouldn't be.  No hard feelings, no drama. Hence, I think I'll keep these ladies around for a while.  


Let's see how we make it through marriages and babies.

i eat the... huh? ....

It seems that the majority of my girlfriends, and me included, have had many guy problems lately.  It's just because boys truly don't know how to act right.  Simply put, they just don't know how to behave.  

This is probably why so many women question whether or not they should date a woman.  Not that the sex isn't wonderful with a man (most of them anyways), but everything else is so hard to put up with.  Like I have mentioned before, good women usually put a lot on the line for a man, so when there is nothing in return, you question your motives.

So wouldn't dating a woman be sort of easier?  I mean after you have looked for a good man long enough.  She would know what you want, and she wouldn't have those male douche qualities.

One of my besties was telling me how she has literally sat down and took into serious consideration dating a woman.  None of us are afraid of our sexuality, and we all (my friends and I) check out a beautiful girl if she passes by.  So i know my friend was serious when she had brought it up.  I myself told her I could never.  Just because I know for a fact I would have no sex life.  I don't mean to be so vividly honest, but I could never eat pussy.

Plain and simple, it's not for me.  I could never.  I might be able to kiss a girl, but that's as far as our relationship would go.  And I do NOT judge any girl on girl action at all, I just honestly think vaginas are ugly/weird looking/complicated.  I mean, I keep mine MAINTAINED thank you very much.  Gotta keep the good-good all good good.  But I just wouldn't know what to do with it.  And to be honestly fair and truthful, I think a guys stuff if ugly too.  But trust me, I know what to do with those, lol.

Guess I'm sticking with men.  I will say, my friend completely agreed.

my quarter life crisis......

So my MOST hated question of the year is "OH you're a college graduate? What do you plan on doing with your life next?"  Okay I understand that I am supposed to have this master plan in life and that I am technically supposed to know what to do with my life next.  I hate to break it to everyone, but I actually have NO CLUE where I want to go from here.


I know what my problem is.  I want to do too much, my  goals are scattered everywhere and I can't put them in a good enough order.  And I know a lot of people my age with the same exact problem.  Not only that, but I refuse to give up on any of those goals.  Be a business owner, go to law school, marry a rapper, go to France for a year, strip for money, live in New York for a year, go to graduate school, date a rich guy, start a business with my mom, start another business with my friends...... It's a never ending list of random things I refuse not to do in my life (I hope you can tell which ones I was serious about and which I wasn't).   Haven't you ever watched one of those stories on the news about people who take a chance and accomplish all these things because they didn't make anything impossible in their life?  I am determined for that to be me.  I refuse to give up all these random ideas of what to do with my life because I know that they aren't far fetched.  They are real enough for me to still believe I can do it.


Not only that, but I am ONLY 23.  I know I cry about it since I am halfway to my high school reunion and all, but I finished school, I am not married, I haven't popped out any babies.  Why can't society acknowledge that finishing college IS something great enough to achieve at this time in a person's life.  You know when you graduate, your supposed to feel amazingly accomplished and feel like you have done something extra great?  Well I did for about an hour. A lot of my fellow graduates didn't even make it that far.  Because right after the ceremony, then came that annoyingly difficult question, "What next?"  GEEZ, can I enjoy the fact that I JUST FINISHED BEING IN SCHOOL FOR 17 YEARS OF MY LIFE?!?  What if I want to take a two year break to explore life?  I know that statistically, my generation isn't going to even do half as great as our parents, but honestly, where else in my life have I ever been apart of the statistic?  Um, NEVER.  I am positive I won't be apart of this one either, and I only surround myself with friends and people going places.  It's just we are all about taking our time.  I am great at not following the crowd when I know I don't want to, and for that statistic, I KNOW I don't want to.


So really people, take some vicoden, wash it down with some henny, and chill the eff out.  Let me and my generation of people do what we do, and we will turn out EXACTLY how we are supposed to.  I feel that there is so much pressure from everyone for us to all be these super duper bread winners, and don't get me wrong, I love the idea, and it WILL happen.  But can I take my time please? Okay thanks.

the wife-ee material....

Most guys are looking for girls that are wife material to be with,  most likely because they know that they will be her top priority.  And ADMIT IT, that's the most appeasing part about it because just like slutty girls in the club, secretly guys want attention.  Not to mention, who wouldn't want to be top priority?  Unfortunately we are completely retarded for doing such a thing since there is no rock on our finger, but it is our womanly ways I suppose.  The funny thing is, that most girls are wife-ee material, BUT it takes a certain man to bring it out of her.  The girls I see posing as wife material always do a little too much.  Pay his bills, do his laundry, cook, stay home when he tells them too.  That's wonderful that you are that devoted to your man, and honestly I find my instincts telling me that I should be doing stuff like that.  BUT the fact of the matter is that when you push the limit like that, you have just given your man the benefit of the doubt, and he knows it.  So he'll own it.  He knows that you have put him up on this pedestal, and if he falls off, you will be the one who helps him get back on that sucker.  Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free right?  When woman do this, they leave no room for their guy to imagine how much GREATER being married to them can be.  Why should they wonder?  The woman is doing everything now with no ring, no commitment, nothing.  I think it's cute, and sweet, and shows a lot about a woman who can put her own needs aside to satisfy her man, but honestly, I don't want to be the cow.

Every girl you meet in the world wants to think they are wife material.   Rappers rap about it, singers sing about it, and guys you meet everywhere are talking about that girl he would "wife up."  So why on earth do guys ask for something they want, but then act completely blind-sided when girls start talking about being married?  That is what most girls in this society build themselves up for.  And ladies why do you so quick to succumb to this state of "wife-ness" but then you aren't quick enough to realize when you are doing too much?  Is it because we are being the cow?  I mean I get that if it is so easy, why complicate things with marriage and commitment?  And who the hell wants to be married in a society like ours anyways?  Most of those commitments end in fights, paper work, and scheduled time with your kids.  Not poppin' if you ask me.  

 I just feel that guys should stop asking for a girl to ride or die for them, or to be their wife-ee, if they aren't ready to consider the thoughts you put into her head by giving her names like that.  I think us ladies should re-evaluate the men we put our lives on hold for and make sure he's truly worth it, and make sure he'd do the same for you if roles were switched up.  Remember I told you love is lost?  Well here is where you can test the theory, because if he LOVES you, then you won't feel you wifed up for no reason.

So if love barely exists, ladies,  stop being the cow.

a lover's rant....

I can honestly say that I once believed that I knew a lot about relationships, and now, I'm seriously stuck on second guessing myself.  I mean, when your with someone, things are supposed to be easy, flow right, mesh well.  Of course, there will be problems, yelling, breaks, break-ups, make-ups even.  I just don't understand why it has to be so damn hard to keep a relationship going.  And if it is that hard, is it even worth trying to keep it going?

I can't say much for myself, because I know I'm part of that group that doesn't like to give up.  I know that if things aren't going right, I will make any kind of excuse (usually for whom I am dating) to keep the relationship going, no matter if I'm getting hurt or not.  I just feel that I put so much time, effort, and not to mention my fucking heart into the relationship, that giving up is a waste.    But is continuing also a waste? A waste of time?  I could understand if I was a horrible girlfriend.  If I was a bad girlfriend I would totally get why a guy would give me so many problems.  But I know for a fact I am not a horrible girlfriend.  I am actually a great girlfriend.  Not perfect, but I am great.  I don't trip out about anything except if he is being inconsiderate.  That's all. Wanna go to a strip club? Sure, go. I'll give you ones.  Fuck it, I'll go with.  Wanna go to Vegas? Go!  Don't buy any hoochies drinks and waste your money, but yes dance, no dry humping of course, but that's a reasonable request.  Wanna hang out just guys?  Okay that's fine, but don't let them take some of my time when you already cleared me off your schedule for them.  Simple.  BE CONSIDERATE.

This goes for any relationships.  I have a friend that has no boyfriend, but she is dating a few guys.  She is so considerate of them, she let's them know there is other people, she let's them know exactly how she feels and what she wants as opposed to what she doesn't want.  YET, there are still complaints.  One is mad because he isn't the only one.  Um, okay DEUCES!  She is considerate enough to let you know how things are but you aren't considerate enough to keep the bullshit to yourself?  If you aren't happy with it, why are you wasting her time?  Another one talks about marrying her even though she has repeatedly told him "no thanks."  Okay, can't you be considerate enough not to make sex uncomfortable by talking about marriage while your still in her?!? Another guy completely refuses to admit he has another girl on the side that is serious.  Why?  She told you how it is, why are you putting up a front?  That's being inconsiderate.  She was real with you from the get-go, why can't you be?

My other friend is in a long term relationship.  Being that it is serious, she has been considerate enough to not lie about her past when he asks.  She always tells him the truth.  Low and behold that apparently is the wrong move because being considerate to him by not lying, just gets her into trouble, it just creates these enormously large fights for no reason.

I know too many girls that stay in relationships no matter how many times their heart gets broken.  They stay because they are too considerate of their boyfriends feelings, and not so considerate of their own.  And the boyfriends?  Not so considerate either.

So honestly, what's good enough?  What needs to be done to make a relationship work?  Am I wrong?  Don't be considerate Rose, just think of yourself?  I just wanna love someone and get loved back just as much.  No more, no less.  Is that too much to ask for?  Because if it is, I should start asking God for more feasible things. 

"i sent this girl a picture of my dick...." - Kanye West

You see, I am a very social person.  I LOVE making new friends, no matter what gender.  I will definitely let you be my friend on Facebook or even give you my number if I think you are a cool person to chill with, whether I have a boyfriend or not.  I see no problems whatsoever with making new friends.  But if I give you my number, don't come at me with some bullshit.  My favorite kind of bullshit text from a guy is when he thinks he can just text me and ask me to send him a picture of myself. UGH lame. And even LAMER because I just told you I had a boyfriend.  Yea I gave you my number, but as a "hey we can be friends, let's party" not anything more.  I'm sorry I know how to have adult relationships.  I'm also sorry I always mean what I say when I say things.  Honestly that's my first clue to how much of a douche bag you probably are.  And it doesn't matter if you ask for a clean or dirty picture.  Just the fact that you asked probably means you are hoping for a dirty picture, because if I was a guy, that's the kind of picture I would be expecting.  Now I am not talking about my guy friends.  I send my guy friends pictures all the time, and NO, not dirty ones sick ass.  I mean I'll send guy friends the same kind of pictures I'd send any of my girlfriends.  But if I don't even know you and you ask for a picture?  REALLY?!?  I know what kind of girls send guys pictures, and that is NOT me unless I want to be that girl.  But hey, if you are gonna send me a picture, thanks.  I can add you to the douche bag list on my phone.  Oh, and if you are dumb enough to send me a picture of your dick, you better believe my friends and I are JUST like guys enough, that we show EVERYONE.  So, if you have sent me or any of my friend's a picture, dressed or butt naked, we have all seen it.  

halloween has been good to me....

Halloween is one of my fave holidays.  I don't have to do anything but dress cute or funny and party the whole weekend.  My holiday weedkend was sort of messed up due to relationship issues (story of my life), and the fact that small costumes = less body warmth = getting sick.  So technically I only did something on Friday, and that event was job related.  Luckily, I work for my father, so I got to invite my girls and family had flown in.  That still did not prevent me from having to work unfortunately.  My dad and his firm decided to throw a 1920's party for their clients.  It was a very long night, but it was worth it.  A successful event with everyone leaving very happy, full, and buzzed just enough.  It wasn't until the end of the night that I got to finally mingle and dance with my friends and family.  I was put to work making sure the DJ arrived, the food was restocked, and the guests were being checked in.  Very cute I must say.

Saturday was just more family time, a bestie's bf's birthday party (45 minutes in total), and driving around Hollywood to see how insanely creative some people are.  Eventful, yet also very short lived.  And Sunday was my relax and do absolutely NOTHING day. So overall, it was a very chill weekend.  I got cute pictures out of it.  That's all I care about.